You can thrill your partner with dirty talk without even seeing him. It’s true! Those in long distance relationships are very familiar with the concept of phone sex to keep the tension high and the relationship healthy. If you take your time and get creative with your partner, phone sex can be so good, it almost feels like the real thing.

The best way on how to have phone sex is to never hold anything back. You’re not there with your partner, so you have to go the extra mile to make things even hotter. That might mean getting into kinkier fantasies than what you might every try in real life, and making sure that you describe everything in wild, vivid detail. Don’t be afraid to say things that are a little “out there” – your partner probably has a few naughty tales of his own to spin, and you want him to share just as openly as you do, right?

Start out with your simple fantasies, or dirty talk phrases that will get him going. Tell him what you’re wearing, and if you’re not wearing anything at all, make sure you tell him exactly what you’re doing as you are talking to him. Describe everything in detail. Wait for his cue before you use more graphic words. The rule of thumb here is that if he says it, you can say it, too.

Pay attention to your partner’s breathing as you talk to him. The more aroused he gets, the more strident his breath will be. Listen to where he is leading you with his encouraging words. If he wants more, he will lead you there!

Finally, don’t be afraid to enjoy yourself, too. The goal of phone sex is not necessarily to have an orgasm through all those dirty talk phrases – the goal is to stay close to your partner, even though you are separated by distance. If you can talk openly about your desires, staying close will be easy for you!

Learning how to talk dirty on the telephone can be one of the hottest sexual encounters you will ever have. But how do you break the ice and let the person on the other end of the line know exactly what you want? You can tell them about your wildest fantasies once you know them a bit better, but what if you aren’t sure of them just yet? How do you find that fine line between kinky and tame?

Start out by reading your partner. Are they the shy type? Are they talking about everything but sex? If they are talking about sex, are they using gentle phrases, or are they going hardcore? The way they talk to you about sex from the start tells you how quickly they are willing to move. You can take your cues from their comments and move things along slowly if they are shy, but you can move much faster if they are talking to you like they’ve known you (and your sexual preferences!) for years.

If they invite you to tell them “anything,” take them at their word. They know they are getting into a phone sex conversation by that point, and they probably know that by inviting “anything,” they are also inviting something kinky. It probably isn’t the best idea to break out your wildest fantasies with someone you don’t know that well, but at least you know you can push the boundaries a little.

Pay attention! It’s easy to get lost in your own fantasies, especially when the orgasm is approaching. But pay attention to what your phone sex partner is saying – and pay careful attention to what they are NOT saying. Did you shock them into silence? Did you embarrass them? Are they encouraging you or are they backing away and trying to take the conversation in a different direction? They might not come right out and say what they are thinking, so pay attention to the cues they do give you.

Talk about it later. Unless you are having a one-night phone sex stand, you should have some time to talk to your phone sex partner when it’s all over. Ask them for their honest opinion on the fantasies you shared – did you tell them too little? Too much? Just right? Trust in their responses and go with them next time you have phone sex with that person.

If you want to hear more fantasies from them, say so! If their fantasies were a bit over-the-top for you but you’re open to hearing more, say that, too. As with anything else, open communication will improve the next time… and the next time… and eventually, your phone sex will be so hot, you will be sharing anything and everything.